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Dec 082009
 

Just as we would grab a coat or run to shelter when a rainstorm or snowstorm pelts our bodies, we need to grab an ‘emotional overcoat’ or a ‘mental shelter’ to run to when embracing the New Year. The rain, snow, hail, or even wind are viewed by most of us as negative forces; however, there is a positive outcome to the experience of such tormenting weather: We get MOTIVATED to do SOMETHING to PROTECT ourselves.

For Every Negative There is a Positive

There is a saying that expresses something along the lines of “For every negative, there is a positive.” Honestly, I read so much, I cannot remember, at this moment, whether I learned that in 8th grade Algebra class or in general “Life!” Where I heard it first doesn’t matter much, fortunately – it’s the fact that I remembered it and I hope you remember it, too!That torrid weather PROPELS us into moving to shelter, or at least SEARCHING for a ‘covering’ of some type (a coat, an umbrella, a hat), and that is how we should view negatives in our emotional and mental lives. Pain can be unbearable; it can also multiply quickly. We tend to dwell on anything bad that happens to us, no matter how short-lived it is, and we often do nothing to counteract it! It stagnates within our minds and bodies, and then begins to erupt into a full-blown depression, if we allow it.

Some of us do push it to the side and try not to think about it, and yes, that is one form of action. Unfortunately, the pain often rears its ugly little head later on, often in another form, but one in which causes us to react with panic, anger, and confusion, simply because we didn’t take care of the prior pain. Therefore, we don’t know HOW to deal with the current pain. TWO SLAPS IN THE FACE is more than we can accept!

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Dec 082009
 
MirrorPeople whose personalities and actions tend to push our buttons the most are generally our greatest teachers. These individuals serve as our mirrors and teach us what needs to be revealed about ourselves. Seeing what we don’t like in others helps us look deeper inside ourselves for similar traits and challenges that need healing, balancing, or changing.
When someone is first asked to understand that an irritating person is merely offering him a mirror image of himself, he will strongly resist this idea. Rather, he will argue that he is not the angry, violent, depressed, guilt-ridden, critical, or complainer person that his mirror/teacher is reflecting. The problem lies with the other person, right? Wrong, not even by a long shot. It would be convenient if we could always place the blame on the other person, but this is not always so easy. First ask yourself “If the problem truly is the other fellow’s and not my own then why does being around that person affect me so negatively?”
Our Mirrors May Reflect:

Our Shortcomings

    Because character flaws, weaknesses, etc. are more easily seen in others than in ourselves our mirrors help us to be able to see our short comings more clearly.

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Dec 082009
 

loveLearning to love is like learning to master an instrument or an art. The following is a list of factors these acts all have in common.

PossibilityThis includes having the time to devote to the art, and the physical capacity to do it. One can not very well pick up a violin if ones hands are broken. Time, more often than not, is something that gets in the way of being able to devote oneself to loving.

CommitmentIt is much easier to pronounce I paint or I love you than it is to actually master painting and to unconditionally love someone. Without the wish, will and dedication to work, it will never happen.

GoalsThis includes the ultimate goal of mastering the art as well as all the stepping stones along the way. Staying focused on the present is important, yet without an idea of where one is heading its easy to get lost.

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Dec 072009
 

Significance And Meaning Of Colors In Life

colorsEverything from the way you dress to the nonverbal messages youre sending the world become a mirror reflection of who you are and what youll ultimately attract into your life, business, personal relationships, etc. To help you better maneuver and understand the world its a good idea to learn as much as you can about human behavior, communication, and everything that goes along with personal choices. To get started, focus on the meaning and significance behind color choices.

Blue

Blue is by far the popular favorite color choice sharing equal appeal among both women and men alike. Blue is a color that denotes dependability, trustworthiness, wisdom,confidence, faith, intelligence, heaven and commitment. Like the sky and ocean, it is seen as a constant offering depth and stability. Blue has also been found to have a calming effect, aids intuition, slows metabolism, and is beneficial to the body and mind. It also symbolizes sincerity and piety.Different hues of blue hold different meanings. For example, dark blue is associated with stability, expertise, knowledge, seriousness, integrity, power. Light blue, on the other hand, is known for promoting softness, healing, tranquility, health, and understanding. Furthermore, some shades of blue are dramatic and dynamic like electric blue which evokes a feeling of exhilaration.

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Dec 032009
 

Self Hypnosis

hypnosisUntil recently, hypnosis has been viewed as a mysterious technique, performed by people with strange skills and special powers. The truth of the matter is there is nothing mystical or magical about hypnosis. It is simply a state of concentration and focused attention. Actually, it is a state of consciousness that we enter naturally, but we usually don’t call it hypnosis or trance.


In actuality, hypnosis is not something someone does to you. All hypnosis is really self-hypnosis. You are the one who induces the hypnotic state with the professional working with you as a facilitator. A good hypnotist will always teach you how to affect various levels of trance for yourself, and how to program your subconscious mind for positive changes by utilizing hypnotic tools. Some of these tools are visualization, imagery, and imaginology. There are specific tools for diminishing emotional responses, pain, old beliefs and memories which are no longer appropriate in our lives.

Hypnosis is widely utilized for weight management, as well as smoking cessation, but it’s uses are very wide indeed. Some include pain control, habit disorders, addictions, stress, self-esteem issues, sports enhancement, memory, concentration, and symptom control for disease. Personally, I see self-hypnosis as a “health tool”, one which allows us to manage the workings of our total mind and body at optimum levels, continually healing changes brought about by life stressors, while allowing us to accelerate our learning and reach goals far beyond our conscious expectations.

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Nov 102009
 

MAKING IT EASY FOR PEOPLE TO LIKE YOU!!!

Most of us would much rather beliked than disliked ,but many of us seem to have difficulty in getting to know others and establishing positive interpersonal relationships .However there are certan suggestions given by Social Psychologists,the suggestions given here are solidly based on social psychological research,and you may find them helpful.If ,of course,you want to be disliked and left alone,just do the opposite!

Take Control Of Proximity Factors

Whenever possible ,play an active role in arranging what are usually the accidental contacts that determine who gets to know one another.In a classroom,for example ,sit beside others and avoid seats on the end of rows or in the corners.After a while ,if you haven’t become acquainted with those sitting near you,move to a new location and start over.

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