How Not To Let People Hijack Your Day With Phone Calls

Unchecked, the people in your life can hijack your entire day with phone calls, drop-ins, “quick” questions, e-mail, correspondence,text messages, favors, commitments, visits, breakfast meetings, lunches, dinners, school conferences, and so on.
We certainly want and need people in our lives.And often there’s no one person to blame for our lost days. Most of us are blessed with too many people in our lives, too much of a good thing.“Dealing with people” can refer to managing a sales force, teaching a college course, interacting with family members, or persuading an audience to enroll in your insurance plan.


The Telephone
Not much has changed. It’s up to you to decide whether the telephone is your friend or your worst enemy. The average American spends about 40 minutes per day on the telephone. If you’re spending much more than this, you might examine where your telephone time goes.


Never answer the telephone.

- Use voice mail or an answering service or machine, or have an assistant take messages. (Caller ID allows you to take a call you’re expecting.) If you testdrive this strategy for several weeks, you will note an increase in productivity. (And don’t feel bad—many people prefer leaving a message to speaking with an actual person.)

- Return all calls once or twice a day (perhaps before lunch or before quitting time or dinner, times that provide a natural excuse for keeping calls brief). The person who makes the call generally controls the conversation, which means that you can determine its length.

- When appropriate, get the other person’s direct telephone number, so that you don’t have to go through a third party.

- Your voice mail, answering machine, or assistant should state clearly when you will return calls—for example, morning calls before noon and afternoon calls before leaving the office.When you are out of the office, your message says that you will return calls on such-and-such a date. If you use an answering machine, alert callers if their response time is limited (“You have 90 seconds to leave a message”). Tell people the best time to reach you, for example, “after 4:00 p.m.”

Most Of The Girl's Life After Marriage

A little help......here the word AVAR  means "him"......kalyani's husband   
   
It’s a story of a Brahmin gal who loved a non-Brahmin and due to father’s compulsion married a Brahmin guy and leading a perfect life with little happiness!!  This may be a story, but the content, characters and the sentences of the story were “Heart Throbbing” and “Breath Taking”…  Please do read it completely, it takes around 15 mins… But, I say, its really worth reading this story… This may even lead to a change of attitude or the character or the mindset in you, in the future…

(Some tamil words included)…
 
    Dearest Appa,
    27th Jan’1965
    Hope this letter finds you, Amma, Raji and Seenu in good health.  The weather here in New York City is icy cold.  But Avar sollraar- I have missed this winter’s biting cold. I still wish I had seen the snow… But then, I still wish I had not left Trichy at all. I do miss Trichy, Appa. You, Amma, Raji, Seenu, pakkatthaathu Rama, Vikatan,Ucchi Pillaiyaar Koil, filter coffee, Holy Cross College, the Maths Department and of course Sakthi. I know you wish I hadn’t brought his name in this letter.But not to worry Appa, I understand that you got me married to Visu because you thought it was best for your daughter.
I still remember Amma wiping her silent tears with her madisaar thalappu and you shouting at me the day I told you about Sakthi.Later, when the initial shock wore off you patiently listed umpteen reasons why I should not marry Sakthi. I agree Appa, that 20 is too young to decide, that Raji and Seenu would have been affected greatly by my ‘mistake’, the Agrahaaram would have scoffed at you… a meat eater was not a good match for someone who had never even tasted onion and garlic. The reasons were innumerous. I knew you’d still have objected and offered other reasons even if he had become a     Dhigambara monk.
Visu on the other hand, wore a poonal, he is the son of Neelakanta Sastri, an Engineer and he researched about computers which is what made you jump for this alliance. Am not complaining Appa, Visu is a nice man. Tell Amma that I could not try her kozhakkattai recipe this Pongal because coconuts were too expensive and Avar nenacchar that it was ridiculous.
Anyway, we went out on Sankaranthi day and dined out. He thought it would be a good idea to invite the Chatterjees also. But I didn’t speak Bengali and Mrs.Chatterjee spoke English in an accent that comes with living years in America. Hence I made myself busy with the menu card. They ordered various species of fish,shrimp and a lot more of items I had never seen in my life. I ordered orange juice and a sandwich. The other diners thought it was queer coming to a seafood restaurant and settling for a sandwich. That day, I learnt  that Avar prefer pannradhu beef, pork, bacon and seafood.